this is how they clear the pool of black kids when it’s adult swim time.
New year is fast approaching guys and you probably have been swamped with people on twitter, facebook, bb stating the ‘New year, New me’ or writing down ‘New years resolutions’ they simply cannot stick to *sigh*. It gets boring after a while especially as the person has been saying this since 2008, 2009, 2010 and even in this year aswell. The mistake here is simple they keep doing the same things they were doing in previous years and expect a different result.
These are just some of the things, I would like to see get left behind in 2011:
Grudges - When people hold a grudge against you they can be your biggest enemy of progess, but holding onto one is literally impeding your growth and automatically gives you a bitter heart believe it or not. Despite what happened in the past let it go, no grudge is worth taking away your moments of joy.
Gossip - The word says it all, if its not none of your business don’t get involved!
Stunting - To the lad’s especially we understand your incredibly fashionable with your designer material possessions but at what cost? It’s only hurting your bank balance at the end of the day and eventually you will get sussed out eventually.
Indirects - Big, big problem on social networking sites, indirect comments are not going to make the situation any better. Direct the person, no need to beat around the bush, it can get a tad immature to be honest.
The term YOLO - By now we should have all realised we only live once in this life time, but this term for me is just an excuse to live recklessly and make stupid decisions to look socially cool.
The word ‘beef’ - When people say “is it beef?” my friend tell them “is it stew?”. If you want some beef, bring some beef and we’ll cook some stew, ah ah *Uncle voice*
Words like ‘Peak’ and ‘Rage’ - Leave it in 2011, its not worth an explanation.
You know what, the list is endless and I really don’t want to bore you with them all because there are A LOT of things. For some of these things, they will continue to happen in 2012 *sigh*, after all we do live in the real word.
I will be honest 2011 has been an interesting year, there have been some HIGHS and when I mean highs, I mean big highs, so high you just literally just thank God for your life and appreciate everything that He has done for you. But then there are LOWS and when I mean lows, so low you just feel like you don’t have the strength in you but fear not guys, 2012 is going to be an amazing year of achievements (that’s for those of you reading now, who put the work in, acknowledge people’s success and aim to emulate that on a different scale)
I don’t know how to tell you this, but poo-wee you stink!
I am sorry guys for the graphic nature of the truth but right now for some people it is a reality, a disturbing fact and an alarming case for a BATH! or SHOWER! or ANYTHING JUST TO GET THAT STENCH AWAY!
You know when your on the bus and your just calmly tweeting away or listening to the music on your iphone or bb and your shuffle list is just playing the correct songs 1 hit after another. Then all of a sudden, you are looking around, your eyes begin to blink numerously, your face becomes agitated and your nose begins to complain and you realise that something STINKS! You look behind you and whoop there it is, that guy or even worse that woman who is stinking of dangerous body odour which cause’s the back of your hair’s to stand up!
Its not only strangers we know that stink, it can be friends that we know that may be suffering from STRONG cases of B.O and you know when they stink and there is that constant thought in the back of your mind “did you not bath doe? or “like did your right guard turn left?” or “was your Sure having doubts?” Worst thing is, there is never an answer for some of those doubts.
But real talk people who smell are selfish, it is because their own nose can handle the odour meanwhile for those of us who do take care of ourselves our noses cannot compromise with such B.O. It’s not fair! Like why must our eyes water when you lift up your arms? Like why must our nose complain when you move closer to talk to us? Like how can you be acting all guy-guy, when our lungs are suffering when you are in the room and no windows are opened, why?
Your thinking but Kelvin how do we tell some one they stink? Well you have to be a good friend and tell them the TRUTH. Bearing in mind there is a very thin line between the truth and being rude. For me personally if I know them personally I will say it how it is with no sugar coating and offer some solutions. I think some times we say things without offering a solution but if I have told the person and they refuse to take action, just know when they see me they better Muje Baya(Move back)!
Or if you can’t tell them they smell, just post the link of this blog :D
maybe that way they will get the message…
Hey people it’s your guy again Mr SFX back to what he loves doing best, which is blogging the realness. I would like to thank all those for reading during the summer time which proved to be hugely successful as the blog was being read in over 35 citys/towns within the UK and also drawing in on average 200 page views a week! So again thank you, the Mr SFX blog only aims to continue just blogging the realness and it will maintain authentic that’s a promise!
You know what the other day I was just thinking about university and how much it has just opened my mind to new things, new opportunities and life in general within the real world. Lets be honest guys, if some one told you 5 years ago that you would be in uni studying, you would probably just laugh and say “yeah but that’s in 5 years doe, I got time” or for some “nah man that’s long fam” or even for those aspirational students “I can’t wait” «< (they were probably NEEKS) but even just thinking about it now just makes you realise that time really goes fast and it doesn’t wait for no man.
Uni was hyped up from the get go guys, sadly because of the government allowed universitys to charge a maximum tuition fee, it meant that this academic year was the last year to have the £3000 yearly fee and for the next year lets just say they will be paying triple the amount (if you don’t know how much that is, your calculator is always at hand -___- )
For some of us moving to uni was daunting especially living away from home plus also living in a different area with different cultures and possibly going to uni without knowing any one. If you think that is bad think about those who are used to mummys cooking, they are probably soo used to mummys cooking that they can’t even cook for themselves and just know if you’re a girl and you can’t cook then you… (let just say we will save this for another blog)
Lets not even forget about those long trips to IKEA getting those essential pieces of furniture and utensils needed for when moving onto campus and constantly ticking off the “to get” list and hearing those awfully long lectures from Mum, Dad, Uncle Tolu, Aunty Esther, Grandma Gloria and Granddad Femi warning us to study to learn hard and stay away from all distractions.
We will never forget the days our parents encouraged us to go uni(well for most Africans I would say forced, there wasn’t much of an option lol) or the stress of handing in our personal statements to be sent off to UCAS and we would never forget exam day, the unpredictable feeling of not knowing if you got into your university or not.
The hype of uni is somewhat unforgettable and practically un-avoidable. My advice for those of you who are in uni now, I encourage you to just embrace the uni experience and always remind yourself of why you are there in the first place, why? Because when you graduate you will remember where you came from, how you started off and then realise who you have become.
Remember the hardwork really starts when you graduate. And on that note I will leave you to think about that one ;)
Uni Uni Uni, as if there wasnt a bigger step to take in my life than this one. Univeristy has soo much to offer not just academically but it can give you the room to develop yourself into the person you may be for the rest of your life.
Alot of people will say that Uni is ‘LIVE’ because of all the freshers parties, raves etc, but for me thats not the reason why I am going to uni, Im going because I want to get a degree, a good grade, great career prospects and most of all make my parents proud. Like myself Im african (ghanian if you was wondering) and my parents came to this country knowing that I can have more opportunitys to be some one in life and for that I will be ever greatful to God for putting me in such a family.
Im looking forward to this academical year, GOING IN with Optimism is going to be my motto, doing everything like its my last and aswell having fun because I aint going to be young for ever c’mon lets admit it, doing work with no play will leave you insane. I know for a fact the work will be intense, I know that I will be pushed to my limit, I know that I may be out of my comfort zone and I know that what you put in, is certainly what you get out.
Its going to be a bumpy ride this academical year but one well worth it. 2010-2011 Im GOING IN with Optimism.
Hey yall back on the blogging, I know you guys have missed me which is why ton’s of you have been asking me to start writing again (which im doing now) but this time I’m going to finish what I started, so apologies as I will proceed to give you guys what you wanna read.
Its like the older I get the more wiser I become, I mean its like that with most people who learn from their past experiences in order to not make the same mistakes. One thing that I have learnt is that we are an advertisement of ourselves believe it or not. Its the main reason why first impressions are important not only the first impressions on the physical appearance but also a long lasting impression left on the person that counts the most.
Some people seriously just didnt learn as they get older, no offence not trying to sound rude or anything but some people are just a bad advertisement of themselves, a very bad advertisement so bad you have to look at the person and just think “what is going on there?”
People always judge regardless (im not talking about judging the individual but looking at the physical appearance of the person by what they wear to get an idea of kind of person they are) so it is important to make sure that you present yourself in such a good way if not then dont expect to hear good things. How you treat yourself is definitely the same way others will treat you its a simple as that especially if you dont respect yourself enough no one will!
Dont mistake being a good advertisement for keeping alot of friends, or because of that large sum of cash in your account, or that new car, or because of your good looking bf/gf, not even none of these things but what makes a you a good advertisement is your character!
You know that kind of character that is a leader, always positive, good sense of humour, confident, optomistic, kind, calm even in their ‘storms’, even just being around them is a joy in itself. These kinds of qualities will be evident by everyone who knows the person who has these attributes, so much so that the person doesnt have to always big themselves up like most people do, it will just be there naturally without putting it on.
First impressions are crucial just think about the next future impressions you have to make on your :
Future Graduate Job
New people you will meet
Think carefully about this, it’s important…
Watch this mini documentary I’m in about the UK Riots.
Watch, Like, Share…Bless
Men are not emotional (but some seem to be which is quite weired) and because of that we may find it hard to show our emotions. I think this is what complicates us men to women, although we may show a lack of emotions we tend to have a competitive nature in being better than ‘a’, ‘b’, or ‘c’. Thats just men for you but for me personally I have written down the characteristics that are found in real men.
Real men are natural born leaders who call the shots regardless of what anyone else thinks.
Real men dont try to install fear in others to gain respect but they show respect to earn respect back.
Real men are men who turn down a offers from a lot of women to be faithful to just one women their wife
Real men hardly speak but their actions their results speak much louders than their words
And lastly you know a real man when you see one, trust me!
You know those people who constantly talk but they dont have nothing to back it up! I bet you have seen them right?
Im telling you there are many of these people out there but it seems like its a growing trend which isnt a good thing. Its like the individual knows how to talk even to the point of making complete sense of what they are talking about but like after the talk wheres the action? where are the fruits? Infact where is the difference between talking and after talking?
People who commit this mistake of always talking but no action are in danger of not being taken seriously to who ever they speak to. When they speak their words become like rubbish pure rubbish, its like when they speak your thinking “who are you to talk” and even if they were to speak to you and make complete sense you just wont be able to take it seriously. There are a few who talk but they manage to back it up with action plus also the results are evident, funny thing is its only a minority who are able to do this.
For me at my time in college I noticed that the one’s who were quiet, got their head down and done what they needed to do are the same one’s who actually produce the results that are clearly evident and even if they didnt speak much if they was to say something it would have impact on the person listening.
Action produces results, talking just produces more talking unless the individual actually takes an action to do something.
Your probably thinking “what on earth am I on about now?” dont worry guys it was just a motto that inspired almost everyday when I walked into college. How I got the motto? Well that was easy, so its a bright afternoon, chilling in the cantine when me and my friend Daniel were just thinking why guys give soo much attention to girls rather then on their actual books.
We were bewildered, frustrated to think how one can throw away good grades by getting distracted, worst of all this kind of attention gives that girl a sense of satisfaction knowing that this guy is consistently trying to get her attention. Poor boy doesnt realise how he’s got himself wrapped under her little finger, so from that we thought nahh! *slams both hands on the table* thats enough, from this day on it just has to be about me and getting my grade, period!
You could call us selfish if you want but at this stage we had our thinking caps on, we werent prepared to let any one get in the way of anything especially any female friends.
No Satisfaction! I told myself never will I jump on the bandwagon to compliment a girl that has already been complimented a million times by every1. I told myself from that day will I not even boost the ego of certain girls by showing them very little attention and on that very day I told myself never will a girl be a priority over my books.
Bare in mind I do want to get into a relationship and get married to the girl I will settle down with for the rest of my life but in this very moment I dont see myself doing that and not for a long time either until I able to get my education out the way and become stable financially speaking.
These are the times to be selfish y’all, the time to keep on improving you, giving yourself the best opportunity to better yourself and not allowing distractions to get in the way. As for you guys out there just remember no girl is going to want a guy with no vision and especially no financial stabillity so I advise you hit them books, work hard and yeah you know the story ends…
No satisfaction guys, No satisfaction…